Trying to Understand

[Verse 1]
You tell me what went wrong at work
I start to fix it mid-sentence
Catch myself, bite back the answer
Let your whole thought have its entrance

I ask what you need from me
Not what I would need in your place
Your hands are shaking round the mug
I slow my voice and give you space

[Pre-Chorus]
I won't pretend I know your road
Or turn your hurt into advice
I'll stay here while the silence holds
And hear you twice

[Chorus]
I’m trying to understand
Not win, not make you see my side
I’m trying to understand
Keep my first reply inside
If I get it wrong, tell me again
I’ll set my pride down where it lands
I’m trying, trying to understand

[Verse 2]
You say the joke cut deeper than I thought
I feel the defense rise in my throat
Then I remember impact is real
Even when I never meant the blow

So I ask which words stayed with you
I don’t ask you to make them small
I can own the mark I left behind
And still be here through it all

[Pre-Chorus]
I won't pretend I know your road
Or turn your hurt into advice
I'll stay here while the silence holds
And hear you twice

[Chorus]
I’m trying to understand
Not win, not make you see my side
I’m trying to understand
Keep my first reply inside
If I get it wrong, tell me again
I’ll set my pride down where it lands
I’m trying, trying to understand

[Bridge]
Different window, different weather
Same room, two honest views
I can hold my own convictions
And make room for what is true in you
No quick pardon, no neat answer
Just the work of staying near
I can listen without disappearing
I can be brave enough to hear

[Final Chorus]
I’m trying to understand
Not win, not make you see my side
I’m trying to understand
Keep my first reply inside
If I get it wrong, tell me again
I’ll set my pride down where it lands
I’m trying, trying to understand

[Outro]
Tell me again
I’m still listening